Dear Carolyn: What is your opinion of married men who refuse to wear a wedding ring? My husband of many years took his off a few years ago, and has steadfastly refused to put it back on even though I’ve stated repeatedly that it would mean a lot to me if he would wear it again. My gut says he’s either cheating on me or looking for the opportunity to cheat.—Mine’s On
Dear Carolyn: When my husband and I were first talking about having children, he suggested my mother’s name and his mother’s name ( “Elaine Nicole”) or our fathers’ names ( “Timothy James”).
Dear Carolyn: My wife and I split up for a couple of reasons—including that she’s likely bipolar but refuses treatment. Slowly over the years of working together to raise our children, we seem to have developed a friendly relationship. I love being with her when she is on the up side; when she is down, I stay clear.
Dear Carolyn: My younger sister and I have become very close over the last few years as we are both in our 20s and beginning our own lives. She attends a university about an hour away from where I live. I live about 15 minutes from our parents’ house and my sister comes home to visit frequently, and lives at home during her breaks. She and I have a ton of fun together, and I enjoy spending time with her.
Dear Carolyn: I’ve written before, but in a much elongated version. Yet the problem persists: My brother-in-law, husband to my husband’s sister, has been verbally abusing my husband for over a year now (well, actually, through email to him and rants to other relatives). His sister will not intervene, since her husband has proceeded with her knowledge and approval. This mess is entirely the result of a family business situation, not of either of their making.
Dear Carolyn: Is there a polite way to say to well-meaning family and friends, “Please don’t feel like you have to try to set me up with every gay man you know just because I am single”? I live in an area without a huge gay community, so I’m grateful for occasional set-ups with guys who share my interests; but it feels like sometimes, these matchmakers are using “You’re both gay” as their only criterion.
Dear Carolyn: I’m depressed about the direction my professional life has taken. I feel like I could cry at any moment. I need a warm word or a hug.
Dear Carolyn: There’s this guy I always thought was cute, but he had a girlfriend. In the last few months, though, we both became single, started flirting, then dated. It was a lot of fun; there was great chemistry, we have a lot of interests in common, and he is very into me, relationship-oriented, available and sweet.
Dear Carolyn: My little brother and I used to be close, but have had a more tense relationship in recent years (I thought he needed to grow up, he thought I wasn’t fun anymore).
Dear Carolyn: We have been lucky to have open communication with our boys about sex over the years. Now they are 16 and 17 and have girlfriends. The 16-year-old has opted for “everything but” because that makes him feel safest. The 17-year-old is having sex and wants me to allow his 18-year-old girlfriend to spend the night. I have convinced them to get on the pill, but I feel like they should be having sex in the back seats of cars like the rest of us had to. (Ha, just a little humor there!)
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